According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
A homeless woman gets a complete makeover and impresses the entire world.
Selflessness and kindness to strangers are not as uncommon as we might imagine. In every corner of the world, certain people go above and beyond to improve the lives of others. With the rise of social networks, joyful anecdotes continue to emerge, emphasizing the deep influence of generosity and compassion. One such amazing story occurred in Turkey, when an accidental encounter between an impoverished woman named Rita and a caring person, Shafag Novruz, turned into a lesson in humanity.
Shafag Novruz is a young professional stylist who specializes in cosmetics, styling, and bridal hairstyles. She ran into Rita, a destitute woman living on the streets. Shafag was struck by Rita’s neglected appearance and felt obligated to use her talents and resources to restore Rita’s exterior attractiveness as well as her feeling of dignity. Rita had no idea that this experience would result in a spectacular transformation that would permanently alter her life.
Rita had been facing the harsh reality of homelessness for years, accompanied only by memories of her late son. She lived on the streets, collecting bottles and bags to survive. Despite her desire to find work, Rita felt the weight of societal judgment based on her appearance. Shafag was inspired by Rita’s narrative and wanted to take up the job of changing her image to assist her reintegrate into society.
Shafag Novruz’s commitment to Rita’s transformation beyond expectations. The makeover began with a visit to the dentist, when Shafag personally paid for Rita’s teeth surgery to give her the smile she deserved. Manicures and pedicures were performed as part of the ensuing makeover. Hair care came after that. Rita’s short and damaged hair was straightened, blonded, and lengthened with hair extensions, giving her a vivid and feminine appearance.
The usage of cosmetic items, beauty treatments, waxing, fake eyelashes, and professional makeup applications performed miracles. Shafag congratulated the people behind the change in an Instagram post.The before-and-after photographs depict a nearly indistinguishable lady exuding confidence and attractiveness. Some could even think Rita looked years younger. Rita looked like a star in her magnificent black outfit, masking the truth that she was formerly destitute and battling to survive on the streets.
Even the comments on Shafag’s article acknowledged the force of this metamorphosis. One person commented on Rita’s gorgeous eyes, while others praised Shafag for her incredible work. The extraordinary development not only astounded internet users.
It had a significant impact on Rita’s self-esteem. She expressed gratitude, saying she felt more attractive and confident than she had ever been. Rita is now filled with fresh confidence and ready to face the world. She expects that her new appearance will lead to job chances, thanks to the great generosity of her benefactor, Shafag Novruz.
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