This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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BEN AFFLECK & JENNIFER GARNER’S NEW PHOTOS LEAK AMID J.LO’S DIVORCE DRAMA – HERE’S THE SCOOP
Before they ended their relationship, broke off their engagement, and fell out of love, they were one of the most famous couples in the entertainment industry in the early 2000s.
In 2021, “Bennifer” got back together, making fans around the world very happy. But despite hopes for a happy ending, things didn’t work out as planned.
Recently, there were rumors that Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck were having problems. This week, Lopez filed for divorce from Affleck. It’s worth noting that August 20 was the second anniversary of their surprise Las Vegas wedding.
Of course, there’s been a lot of buzz about Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez’s decision to get a divorce. Almost every magazine and website covering celebrities is trying to find out how Ben and JLo are doing.
Meanwhile, Ben was seen getting off a plane with his ex-wife, Jennifer Garner, and their child, Fin. He didn’t seem upset at all on the day Jennifer Lopez filed for divorce.
Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner were seen taking a flight to Los Angeles after dropping off their daughter Violet at her college in Connecticut. All eyes were on Ben as he got off the plane, and fans were quick to share their thoughts on his demeanor.
One user on Instagram commented, “He seems relieved \ go Ben! ],” while another said, “He looks ecstatic. He rarely smiles like that, wow.” A third user remarked, “He’s celebrating.”
Even though this was likely just a family outing for Violet, the fact that Ben was seen with his ex-wife on the same day Jennifer Lopez filed for divorce made headlines.
Some people online were thrilled to see Ben with Garner and even speculated about the possibility of them rekindling their romance.
“He’s smiling again! He should stay with his family forever. \\\,” a fan wrote on Facebook.
Another admirer commented, “He’s always happy around @jennifer.garner . I hope they get back together because not every divorce ends badly. They were together for years and have kids.”
A third person said, “He knows where his true love is and where he feels safe and loved! Family is the most important thing.”
One online user suggested, “Garner might be dating someone just to cover up her relationship with Ben, which is why his other relationships don’t last .” This implies that Ben and Jennifer Garner might be getting closer again.
Reports also say that Garner celebrated her 52nd birthday with Affleck on August 15, just five days before the divorce news, at the rental house in Brentwood, California, where he currently lives.
It’s important to remember that any rumors suggesting Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are more than just co-parents are just that—rumors. They should be taken lightly.
Meanwhile, Jennifer Lopez, who has canceled her planned North American tour for this year, is rumored to have filed for divorce without a lawyer, suggesting she wants to handle it herself.
TMZ reports that there was no prenuptial agreement between JLo and Ben, as shown in the divorce filings.
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