When we share our lives online, we often face criticism. This young couple, who love sharing pictures of each other, received negative comments about their relationship.
However, their response to the criticism is smart and reminds us how important it is to stand by our beliefs.
The story of Matt and Brittany Montgomery is a familiar but beautiful one. The couple met, fell in love, and began their life together.
While this may seem like a typical situation, the couple’s story has a unique twist: their size difference. Brittany has struggled to find acceptance throughout her life. She didn’t have a secure relationship with her parents, who were often controlling, and their interactions left her feeling drained.
These experiences led her to have low confidence in herself and her body. As a plus-sized woman, Brittany often found herself attracting two types of men: those who wanted her to lose weight or those who fetishized her curves. These negative experiences made her want to stop dating altogether and shut herself off from the chance of finding love.
While they fully accept each other, they’ve experienced judgment from the outside world. Matt mentioned, “People comment on Instagram and suggest that I’m not big enough or man enough for her.” He also said, “I notice people staring at us when we walk down the street…”
Despite the criticism they face from those who don’t understand their strong bond, the couple shares nothing but love for one another.
Matt has had bad experiences with conventionally sized women in the past. However, Brittany makes him feel different and has helped him realize that she is his true soulmate. He accepts her as she is and focuses on making her happy. He isn’t shy about publicly expressing his love for her. In a post dedicated to Brittany, he wrote, “You are worthy, you are deserving of infinite love every single day and more. The way I look at you and feel for you, and the way you look and feel for me, is how I know that we are meant to be.”
His message shows that despite the rude comments they receive on their pictures, he loves his wife, and their connection goes far beyond the physical. What a strong response to the haters!
The couple aims to break the stigma surrounding “mixed-weight” relationships. Brittany expressed, “I wish mixed-weight relationships were more common and accepted as the norm.”
The young couple welcomed their child, Lakelyn, in March 2022, and just last month, they announced they are expecting their second child in September 2023. We wish them all the best!
What Men’s Beauty Standards Look Like in Different Countries
The mainstream definition of what an ideal man should look like varies from country to country. Just like women, a lot of men try to follow common beauty trends in order to be seen as more attractive. The cultural difference in what exactly people consider objectively beautiful might come as a surprise.
Bright Side did a fun bit of research about what people consider to be the ideal male beauty standard in many countries around the world. Looking at the most beloved male celebs will tell you about what is considered attractive.
1. United States and Canada
According to People’s magazine, the most attractive men in the US for the past 3 years are Paul Rudd (Ant-Man), Michael B. Jordan (Black Panther), and singer John Legend.
The usual definition of beauty, when it comes to men in the United States and Canada, is having a muscular physique, ruggedness, and golden skin. However, in the past couple of years, especially among the younger generation, an androgynous look has become more desirable.
2. India
According to the poll, the most attractive men in India are actors Shah Rukh Khan (Don 2), Aamir Khan (Like Stars on Earth), and Hrithik Roshan (Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara). Even though Shah Rukh Khan took first place, he actually opened up, saying that he has been called “ugly and unconventional” in the past.
The main beauty standard in India is having a lighter skin tone, which gets promoted a lot on TV. Other than that, Indian standards are pretty close to American: tall, muscular man, who have clear skin and a full head of hair.
3. United Kingdom
According to a 2021 poll, the most attractive man in the UK is Tom Hardy (Inception), and 2022 research suggests that Richard Madden (Game of Thrones) has a huge shot of winning that title.
The research data says that the ideal type of man for British people has an athletic build, brown eyes, short dark-brown hair, and some facial hair. In fact, men with beards are found to be over 60% more attractive than men without them.
4. Philippines
The most attractive men in the Philippines have been noted as Josh Cullen Santos from the boy group SB19 and the actor Alden Richards (Imagine You & Me).
The beauty standard in the Philippines has shifted and instead of looking macho, the men care about their appearance a lot and go for a more beautiful look, so they go to salons to get facials. Other standards include having dark hair, being at least 5’9“, and having a more “mestizo” look, which means being mixed with white.
5. South Korea
While western countries prefer men who are athletically built, South Korea likes more of a skinny, androgynous-looking body (not too skinny, fat, or muscular) for men. Men need to be a little bit soft, with slim facial features, double eyelids, and lighter skin.
Male celebrities in South Korea also do not shy away from using makeup or dyeing their hair, actors dye it black to look more youthful while idols dye it “fun” colors, and it is not considered to be revolutionary like it would be in the US.
6. Mexico
Mexicans go for a more “macho” look, which means being extremely masculine, as opposed to South Korea which prefers a more androgynous look. The list of the most attractive men includes actors Diego Boneta (Luis Miguel) and Ryan Guzman (9-1-1) in the first 2 spots.
7. Germany
According to research, German women prefer their men to be taller, with either black or brown short hair. The largest percent of the respondents said that they would like their man to be muscular, but skinny men took a close second place.
Football player Marco Reus and the actor Thore Schölermann have been named the most attractive men.
8. Italy
In Italy, men being overly masculine does not have much importance in terms of their attractiveness. In fact, a lot of men are into grooming and styling their body hair, and Italian men do not shy away from wearing “girlish” colors, like pink or purple.
The most attractive male celebrities are considered to be Raoul Bova and Giulio Berruti.
9. Australia
Australian male beauty standards are focused on physical size and being muscular. While women perceive their bodies as heavier than ideal, men who follow beauty standards, on the contrary, think they are too skinny. The Hemsworth brothers are considered one of the ideals of Australian beauty.
10. The Netherlands
The Netherlands is considered to be a country that has the tallest people in the world, with the average height of a woman being 5’7″ (around 170 cm), and 6’0″ (around 183 cm) for men. Dutch women seek a male partner that is taller than them.
TV presenter Arie Boomsma and actor Michiel Huisman have been named 2 of the most attractive Dutch men, and their heights match up the beauty standard: Boomsma is 6’5 (around 198 cm), while Peelen is 6’1 (around 185 cm). Notably, both men are also muscular and have facial hair.
Which country’s standards align with your own? Do you think standards are hurtful for people’s self-esteem?
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