The topic of what constitutes a lasting and prosperous marriage has been a subject of ongoing discussion. While effective communication is often considered a crucial factor, a Japanese couple defied expectations by maintaining a 20-year marriage without saying a word. The surprising rationale behind their silent union adds an intriguing twist to their story.
A Japanese husband took the “silent treatment” to a whole new level.
The silent treatment entails the refusal to participate in verbal communication when someone is trying to engage and elicit a response. It is not unusual to observe a pause in communication following an argument.
However, can you imagine the difficulty of being married to a spouse who persistently avoids communication? This was the situation for a couple from the Nara region in Japan. Otou Katayama and his wife Yumi faced a prolonged two-decade rough patch in their relationship.
For decades, the man refrained from speaking to his wife, even though they lived under the same roof.
Otou Katayama continued to reside with his children and wife. Despite Yumi Katayama’s attempts to initiate conversations with her husband, she consistently faced a dearth of genuine responses. Instead, Otou communicated approval or disapproval through non-verbal cues, relying on grunts and nods.
Surprisingly, the idea of seeking a divorce or separation never crossed the wife’s mind. The couple even extended their family by welcoming a third child, all while Otou Katayama maintained his silent demeanor towards his wife.
The reason behind Katayama’s silence is even more surprising.
Years later, the father and husband elucidated the reasons behind imposing a 20-year silent treatment on his wife. Katayama believed he was lacking the attention he desired from his wife, feeling that her care was predominantly focused on their children.
Initially, he merely sulked about the situation, but over time, this evolved into a sense of jealousy toward his kids and his wife, who exhibited deep involvement in the upbringing of their offspring—perhaps a level of involvement that exceeded Katayama’s preferences.
Thanks to a TV show, husband and wife finally exchanged words after 20 years.
After two decades of silence, the adult children of the Japanese couple decided to take matters into their own hands. They approached a TV show, seeking assistance in resolving the longstanding conflict between their parents. TV Hokkaido stepped in to help the children witness Katayama speaking to his wife for the first time.
The children confessed that they couldn’t recall ever hearing a conversation between their parents. TV Hokkaido orchestrated a meeting between Otou and Yumi at a park, the same location as their first date many years ago. Unbeknownst to the spouses, their children, along with the audience, observed the emotional moment unfolding before their eyes.
After some initial hesitation, Otou Katayama finally mustered the courage to speak a few words to his wife, Yumi. In that moment, the husband felt a heightened sense of remorse and understanding regarding the situation. Katayama conveyed to his wife that he was aware of the pain and hardship his prolonged silence had caused her. Despite his regret, he also expressed gratitude to Yumi for standing by him throughout two decades of his silent period, which ultimately came to an end on that day.
Undoubtedly, the relationship between Otou and Yumi is distinctive, much like that of the couple from our previous article who, despite the woman’s disability and the criticism they faced, embarked on the journey of starting a family and became parents.
During the live performance of Journey’s “Don’t Stop Believin’” in 1981, Steve Perry’s vocals were truly phenomenal
In 1981, Steve Perry of Journey delivered a live performance of “Don’t Stop Believin’” that cemented his reputation as one of the greatest singers in history. Earlier that year, the song had become a worldwide sensation. During a 1981 concert in Houston, Texas, the band showcased their exceptional talent on this now iconic track.
Perry’s vocal delivery on this song is strikingly smooth and almost ethereal, capturing the magnetic presence of a rock star that electrifies the audience. Observers often comment that Perry’s live performance surpasses his studio recordings in its raw intensity and finesse. For an even better experience, you can watch an HD remaster of Journey’s 1981 Houston performance of “Don’t Stop Believin’” on their official YouTube channel.
With 274 million views, this live performance is one of Journey’s most popular videos, ranking third overall on their YouTube channel and number one among their live recordings. The footage comes from their Escape Tour, which supported their seventh studio album, Escape.
Journey played two shows in Houston on November 5 and 6, 1981, but it remains unclear which night “Don’t Stop Believin’” was recorded. The band was clearly in top form during the Escape tour, as evidenced by the popularity of “Who’s Crying Now”, which was also recorded in Houston and was the second most viewed live performance on their YouTube channel.
Fans praised the performance with comments like “No auto-tune, no backing tracks, just exceptional musicianship” and “Steve Perry sings like he’s effortlessly passing a test without studying”. The reaction underscores the awe and admiration for Journey’s live rendition of “Don’t Stop Believin’” in Houston.
The song reached top ten status both in the US and internationally, eventually becoming Journey’s most consistent hit, with 18 platinum awards in the US.
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