Jake and Mary Jacobs marked their 70th anniversary of a happy marriage last year, but their journey wasn’t simple.
Mary, who is White, and Jake, who is Black, lived in the same city in 1940s Britain. At that time, there weren’t many Black men there.
Even though Mary’s father told her to leave, Mary chose love over easy choices.
“When I told my father I was going to marry Jake, he said, ‘If you marry that man, you will never set foot in this house again.’”
Mary and Jake first met at a technical college where Mary was learning typing and shorthand, and Jake was undergoing Air Force training. They met during the war when Jake moved from Trinidad to Britain.
Jake impressed Mary with his understanding of Shakespeare, and they got to know each other. One day, they invited Mary and her friend to join them for a picnic. Unfortunately, someone passing by saw them and reported Mary to her father. The woman was shocked to see two English girls talking with black guys. After this incident, Mary wasn’t allowed to visit her father again.
After Jake returned to Trinidad, they kept in touch through letters. A few years later, he came back to the U.K. to find a better-paying job.
Jake surprised Mary by proposing, and she, at 19, said yes. However, when she told her family, they kicked her out.
“I left with only one small suitcase. No family came to our registry office wedding in 1948.”
Mary’s father was upset about her marrying a black man, and Mary didn’t realize that society felt the same way.
The early years of their marriage in Birmingham were tough. Mary cried every day, hardly ate, and they faced many challenges. Nobody would talk to them, they couldn’t find a place to live because nobody would rent to a black man, and they had little money.
Even walking down the street together was hard because people would point at them, Mary explained.
Mary and Jake were excited to become parents, but at eight months, Mary gave birth to a stillborn child. She mentioned it wasn’t due to the stress she was under, but it deeply saddened them, and they didn’t have any more children.
As time passed, their lives improved. Mary became a teacher and eventually an assistant principal, while Jake found a job with the Post Office. They made new friends, but Mary felt the need to explain to people that her husband was black before introducing them.
“My father passed away when I was 30, and even though we reconciled by then, he never approved of Jake,” she shared.
Currently, Jake, 89, and Mary, 84, live in Solihull, a town south of Birmingham. They recently celebrated 70 years of marriage.
Jake said he has no regrets, but he also mentioned that today’s black youth may not fully understand the challenges he faced in 1940s Britain.
“When I arrived in the U.K., I faced abuse every day. Once, on a bus, a man rubbed his hands on my neck and said, ‘I wanted to see if the dirt would come off.’ Back then, working in an office as a black man with white girls wasn’t considered safe,” Jake explained.
Despite all the challenges, bias, and abuse, the pair is still deeply in love and has no regrets about being married. They have been happily married for more than 70 years.
These two are a true inspiration, and I wish them a lifetime of pleasure because of the love they have for one another.
Resting on your left side has a positive effect on your brain, digestive system and glymphatic function
The position we choose to sleep can have a profound impact on our overall health, and resting on the left side is particularly beneficial. Although many overlook the importance of sleeping posture, studies suggest that sleeping on the left side offers notable benefits, particularly for brain health, digestive function, and the glymphatic system.
First and foremost, sleeping on the left side is beneficial for brain health. This posture improves the brain’s ability to eliminate waste products through the glymphatic system, which is essential for eliminating toxins and metabolic byproducts. Efficient waste disposal during sleep can reduce the risk of developing neurological diseases such as Alzheimer’s and dementia.
In addition, this sleeping position is beneficial for digestive health. Since the stomach and pancreas are located on the left side of the body, sleeping on this side supports the natural flow of digestive juices and enzymes. This can improve digestion and help prevent problems such as acid reflux and heartburn. In addition, sleeping on the left side can relieve the symptoms of digestive disorders such as irritable bowel syndrome (IBS).
In addition to brain and digestive health, sleeping on your left side can also improve circulation and reduce snoring. By relieving pressure on the major blood vessels, this position promotes better blood flow throughout the body, which is beneficial for cardiovascular health and can reduce the risk of high blood pressure and stroke. Additionally, keeping the airway open while sleeping on your left side can reduce the likelihood of snoring, resulting in more restful sleep for both the sleeper and their partner
While the benefits of sleeping on your left side are obvious, choosing a sleeping position should take individual comfort and preferences into account. If sleeping on your left side is uncomfortable or inconvenient for some, that’s perfectly acceptable. The key is to find a sleeping position that ensures good, uninterrupted rest.
In summary, sleeping on your left side may provide numerous health benefits, including improved brain function, improved digestion, and better circulation. By aiding waste disposal, supporting digestion, and promoting cardiovascular health, this sleeping position could lead to a more refreshing and healthy sleep experience. Next time you settle into bed, try sleeping on your left side, it could be a step toward a healthier, more restful night’s sleep.
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