Nikkie thought she had the perfect marriage until her husband, Jack, gave her a cruel birthday gift that shattered her self-esteem. Jack’s obsession with perfection pushes Nikkie to devise a clever plan to reclaim her worth and teach him an unforgettable lesson.
I’ve been married to my husband Jack for over a year, but we’ve been together for six. In the beginning, it felt like a fairy tale. Jack was my best friend, my confidant, and the love of my life. Our relationship was filled with laughter, late-night talks, and a bond that felt unbreakable.
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If someone had told me a year ago that my prince charming would turn into a superficial stranger, I would have laughed it off. But here I am, on the brink of unraveling a story that broke me to pieces.
It all began six months ago when Jack’s innocent trip to the gym spiraled into an obsession that shattered my self-esteem and brought our once-perfect world crashing down.
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It started subtly. Jack would scroll through Instagram, stopping to show me pictures of fitness models with the “perfect” 90-60-90 figures. “Look at her, Nikkie,” he’d say, his eyes glimmering with admiration. “Isn’t she stunning? Imagine if you had a body like that.”
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I laughed it off at first, thinking it was just harmless admiration. But the comments kept coming. “You know, you’d look amazing with a little more up top,” Jack said one evening as we were getting ready for bed. “Have you ever thought about getting breast implants?”
Each remark felt like a tiny dagger. I started to see myself through Jack’s eyes, and it wasn’t pretty. I saw every flaw, every imperfection. My confidence, once a source of pride, dwindled to nothing.
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But the last straw came on my birthday a month ago. The day started like any other but with a hint of excitement that birthdays often bring. Jack woke me up with a bouquet of vibrant flowers, their scent filling the room with a sweetness that felt almost out of place.
“Happy birthday, Nikkie,” Jack said, leaning down to kiss my forehead. He handed me an envelope, his smile wide and proud. “Open it.”
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I sat up, curiosity piqued. An envelope on my birthday? It had to be something special. I tore it open, expecting perhaps a heartfelt letter, a romantic gesture, or tickets to a dream destination. Instead, I found a stack of cash. My heart skipped a beat, but not out of excitement.
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“Wow, Jack, this is… generous,” I said, forcing a smile. My fingers brushed against a folded piece of paper nestled among the bills. I unfolded it, my eyes scanning the words that seemed to scream at me.
“Time to upgrade those mosquito bites.”
My jaw dropped. I could feel the heat rising to my cheeks, my stomach churning with disbelief and fury. Jack was beaming, clearly expecting gratitude.
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“Do you like it?” he asked, his tone eager and oblivious.
I stared at him, trying to process the audacity. “You want me to get… breast implants?”
He nodded, completely missing the storm brewing inside me. “I’ve been thinking about it for a while, Nikkie. You’d look amazing with a little enhancement. Just imagine the heads you’d turn.”
I swallowed hard, forcing down the bile that threatened to rise. “Thank you, Jack,” I managed to say, my voice steady. “This is… unexpected.”
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“Only the best for my girl,” he said, kissing my cheek. “I knew you’d be excited.” Excited? I was seething. My mind raced with the myriad of ways I could lash out, but I knew I had to be smarter. I had to teach Jack a lesson he’d never forget.
Over the next few days, I played the part of the grateful wife perfectly. “I called the clinic today,” I’d tell him casually over dinner. “They said the results will be fantastic.”Jack’s eyes would light up every time, not noticing the underlying steel in my voice. “That’s great, Nikkie. I can’t wait.”
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Meanwhile, I was formulating my plan. Instead of booking a plastic surgeon, I used the money for a complete medical check-up. I deserved to know I was healthy, inside and out, regardless of Jack’s superficial standards.
With the rest of the money, I invested in myself. I joined a gym, but not to meet Jack’s expectations. I wanted to feel strong and confident again. I didn’t tell Jack about my newfound routine. Instead, I woke up early, hit the gym, and returned home before he noticed I was gone.
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I bought new outfits that made me feel fabulous and got a fresh haircut. My confidence grew with each passing day, and I started to see the old Nikkie, the one who knew her worth, emerging from the shadows.
One evening, as I was getting ready for bed, Jack caught me off guard. “You seem different lately,” he remarked, wrapping his arms around me. “I can’t wait to see the final result.”
I smiled to myself, knowing he had no idea what was coming. “You’ll see soon enough,” I replied.
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Jack remained blissfully ignorant, his excitement building as the day of my “surgery” approached. He had no idea that his cruel gift had ignited a fire in me, one that would soon burn down the illusion he had so carefully constructed.
On the morning of my supposed surgery, I left the house with a bright smile. “Wish me luck,” I said, giving Jack a kiss. He hugged me tightly, whispering, “You’re going to look incredible, Nikkie. This is going to change everything.”
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“You’re right,” I said, a steely edge to my voice that he didn’t catch. “It will.”
Instead of heading to a clinic, I pampered myself at a luxurious spa. I indulged in a facial, a massage, and a leisurely lunch, savoring the freedom and self-love that Jack’s “gift” had inadvertently afforded me. Meanwhile, I had arranged for a locksmith to change the locks on our house. Enough was enough.
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When I returned home, the sight of Jack’s car in the driveway filled me with a strange calm. The time had come. He walked in, his eyes scanning for the dramatic change he expected.
Instead, he found the locks changed and his belongings neatly packed in boxes by the door. I stood there, holding the envelope with the remaining money and a new note.
Jack’s face fell. “Nikkie, what’s going on?”
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I handed him the envelope. “Here’s your upgrade,” I said, my voice steady and cold. “It’s time you find someone who meets YOUR standards.”
“Nikkie, please, let’s talk about this,” he stammered, his voice breaking with confusion and regret.
I crossed my arms, maintaining my steely resolve. “There’s nothing to talk about, Jack. You made it clear what you think of me.”
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He stepped closer, desperation etched in every line of his face. “I’m sorry, Nikkie. I didn’t mean it like that. I just thought… I thought it would make you happier, more confident.”
“More confident?” I echoed, incredulous. “You think reducing me to a pair of implants would make me happier? Confident? Jack, what you did was cruel and shallow.” Tears welled up in his eyes. “I messed up. I see that now. I love you, Nikkie, just the way you are. I was an idiot for suggesting otherwise.”
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I shook my head, the memories of his hurtful comments flashing through my mind. “You loved an idea of me that fit some twisted standard, not the real me. I deserve someone who loves me for who I am, not for some unrealistic image.”
Jack sank to his knees, pleading. “Please, Nikkie, give me another chance. I’ll do anything. I’ll go to counseling, I’ll change. Just don’t leave me.” I felt a pang of sympathy, but I knew it wasn’t enough. His words and his actions had cut too deep. “Jack, I’ve already given you so many chances. This is beyond repair. I need to move on, and so do you.”
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He clung to my hand, his grip desperate. “I can’t lose you. You’re my everything.” I gently pulled my hand away, my heart firm despite the ache. “You already lost me when you stopped seeing me for who I am. Goodbye, Jack.”
As he gathered his things, a strange calm washed over me. The weight of his expectations lifted, and I felt a freedom I hadn’t known in months. The best part? The gym had become my sanctuary.
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I made new friends, got fitter, and felt better about myself. My mornings were filled with sweat and laughter, not the silent resentment that had plagued me for months.
Jack’s life, on the other hand, took a nosedive. He tried to win me back, sending flowers and heartfelt letters, but I was done. My resolve was unshakeable. No amount of groveling could erase the months of pain and insecurity he had inflicted.
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Eventually, Jack ended up moving in with his mom for a while, drowning in regret and isolation. The last I heard, he was still single and miserable, a stark contrast to the confident man who once belittled me for not fitting his superficial ideals.
As for me, life has never been better. The gym, initially a place of solace, has become my haven. Each morning, I wake up excited to push my limits, not to meet anyone’s standards but my own. I feel stronger, physically and emotionally than I ever did in my years with Jack.
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I’ve also started dating again. This time, I’ve found someone who loves me for who I am, not for some unrealistic image of perfection. We laugh together, support each other, and most importantly, he appreciates me just as I am. It’s a refreshing and empowering experience to be with someone who values the real me.
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Reflecting on my journey, I realize how far I’ve come. Jack’s cruel gift was a catalyst, a turning point that forced me to reassess my self-worth and take control of my happiness. It wasn’t easy, and there were moments when the pain felt unbearable. But in the end, it made me stronger and more confident in who I am.
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To anyone reading this, remember: you are enough just as you are. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Life is too short to live under the shadow of someone else’s expectations.
Embrace your uniqueness, nurture your strengths, and pursue your passions. The right people will love you for who you are. Stay strong, stay true to yourself, and never let anyone dim your light.
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How to Own Your Dream Home
For most people, their first home isn’t their dream home. It starts off nice enough. But as time goes by and your family grows, starter homes tend to get a little . . . cramped.
But don’t hate on your current home too much. Because while it gave you a safe and dry place to lay your head at night, it was also setting you up to own your dream home someday.
We’ll show you how it all works and walk you through the steps that’ll get you in your dream home—one you can actually afford!
How to Get Your Dream Home in 5 Steps
Here are the steps:
- Follow the Financial Basics
- Find Out How Much Equity You Have
- Set Your New Home-Buying Budget
- Find the Right Dream Home for You
- Be Picky and Patient
Now let’s cover each step in more detail.
Step 1: Follow the Financial Basics
First thing’s first—you have to get out of debt, get on a budget, and build up an emergency fund of 3–6 months of expenses. Sounds pretty basic, right? If you haven’t completed these steps, then you’re not ready to upgrade to your dream home . . . yet.
Now, when you’ve got house fever, it can be hard to focus on paying off debt or saving an emergency fund before you upgrade your home—especially when you’re feeling the pressure of rising home prices and interest rates.
But whether it’s your second or third house, you should only buy a home when you’ve covered the financial basics we mentioned above. Then you’ll be ready to start the journey toward owning your dream house.
And that journey starts with your home equity. What’s equity? Well, we’re glad you asked . . . that brings us to the next step.
Step 2: Find Out How Much Equity You Have
Home equity is a pretty simple concept: It’s your current home’s value minus whatever you still owe on your mortgage.
See, in most cases, your home’s value increases over time. Similar to other long-term investments (like retirement accounts), homes gradually increase in value. There have been periods of ups and downs in the market to be sure, but the value of real estate has consistently gone up. According to the St. Louis Federal Reserve, the average sale price of a home has increased over 2,300% from 1965 to 2023! And in the last ten years (2013 to 2023), there’s been a 68% increase.1 As your home increases in value, so does your equity. In real estate terms, this is called appreciation.
Other factors that increase your home’s equity include:
- Added value: Home improvement projects like adding square footage, updating fixtures and appliances, or even just slapping on a new coat of paint can add value to your home.
- Mortgage paydown: Paying down your mortgage not only gets you out of debt faster, it also builds your equity. The less you owe on your home, the more equity you have.
The amount of equity you have gives you a pretty good idea of how much money you’ll end up with after selling your house. You can use that money to make a hefty down payment and cover the other costs that come with buying a home.
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So, how do you determine your home’s value? Well, you can get a ballpark estimate on real estate websites like Zillow, ask a trusted real estate agent to perform a competitive market analysis (which they’ll do anyway if they’re helping you sell your house), or get a professional appraisal.
Finding out your home’s equity will involve a little math, but it’s third-grade-level stuff, so don’t sweat it.
Here’s what we mean. Let’s say your home’s current value is $355,000. When you sell that house, you’ll have to pay for between 1–3% of the sale price in closing costs, another 6% in fees for the real estate agent who helped you sell it, and whatever’s left to pay off on your mortgage.
That means you can estimate clearing over $223,000 from selling your house. That’s a killer down payment on your dream home! And if your home is paid off, that’s even more money to put down and use to pay for things like repairs and moving expenses.
Step 3: Set Your Dream Home Budget
Once you know how much you’ll clear from the sale of your home, you can start making a budget for your dream home.
The key to owning your dream home (instead of it owning you) is to keep your mortgage payment to no more than 25% of your take-home pay on a 15-year fixed-rate mortgage, along with paying a down payment of at least 20% to avoid private mortgage insurance (PMI). Never get a 30-year mortgage even if the bank offers it (and they will). You’d pay a fortune in interest—money that should go toward building your wealth, not the bank’s.
So, let’s say your take-home pay is $4,800 a month. That means your monthly mortgage payment shouldn’t be any bigger than $1,200. By the way, that 25% figure should also include other home fees collected every month with the mortgage payment like homeowners association (HOA) fees, insurance premiums and property taxes.
Plug your numbers into our mortgage calculator to see how much house you can afford.
And don’t forget to budget for all those other costs that come with the home-buying process in addition to your closing fees—things like moving expenses and any upgrades or repairs you might need to make. You don’t want these hidden costs to catch you off guard or drain your emergency fund.
Step 4: Find the Right Dream Home for You
This is where things get real. After all your hard work building up your equity (and doing a lot of math—don’t forget that), you’re finally ready to start the house hunt. Woo-hoo!
But don’t lose focus. Stay zoned in by making a list of features that make a home fit your budget, lifestyle and dreams—and stick to it throughout your house hunt. Here are a few ideas to get you started.
- Don’t compromise on location and layout. If you plan to be in this home for the long haul, an out-of-the-way neighborhood or a wacky floor plan is a deal breaker. Look for a community and layout that’ll suit your lifestyle now and for years to come.
- Think about how much space your family needs. While your budget has the final say about how much home you buy, you’ll want your dream home to fit your family’s needs through different life seasons.
- Consider the school districts. If you have or want kids, the quality of the nearby school districts is probably already on your mind. But even if you don’t have kids or you’re retired, keep in mind that having good schools nearby could increase your home’s value.
- Look for a house that’ll grow in value. Are home values rising in the area? Is the number of businesses going up? These factors can help you figure out whether your dream home will turn into a good investment.
- Count the costs. Want that fancy master bathroom with the multiple showerheads and the Jacuzzi tub? Be clear on what’s a must-have and what’s nice to have. And don’t forget, upgraded features like that will make your dream home more expensive.
Step 5: Be Picky and Patient
We know you’re anxious to get into those new digs, but be patient. Wait for the right house at the right time. Don’t spend your money on a less-than-ideal home just because you’re tired of looking.
The key is finding a good real estate agent who understands your budget and refuses to settle for “good enough.” They’re as committed to your dream as you are and will have your back throughout the entire process, no matter what it takes.
In addition to teaming up with a great real estate agent, you can take a couple of extra steps to make sure you’re ready to strike as soon as the right home comes up:
- Get preapproved for a 15-year fixed-rate mortgage. Having preapproved financing is a green flag for sellers—especially in multiple offer situations. And because this puts most of your information in the lender’s system, you’ll be on the fast track to closing once your offer is accepted.
- Offer earnest money with your bid. Earnest money is a deposit to show you’re truly interested in a home. Usually it’s 1–2% of the home’s purchase price and it’s applied to your down payment or closing costs. Even if the deal falls through, you can almost always get most of it back.
Find a Real Estate Expert in Your Local Market
Now, you might be thinking you have some work to do before you’re ready to find your dream home. Or you may be realizing your years of hard work are about to pay off! Regardless, if you follow these steps, you’ll find the house you’ve always wanted and avoid a purchase you’ll regret.
Once you’re ready, connect with one of our RamseyTrusted real estate agents. These are high-performing agents who do business the Ramsey way and share your values so you can rest easy knowing the search for your dream home is in the right hands.
Find the only real estate agents in your area we trust, and start the hunt for your dream home!
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